I’m still trying to wrap my brain around the unbelievable violence from this weekend (again). The online response to the California shooting was swift and fierce. If you have not read the huge number of tweets under #YesAllWomen, I encourage you to check them out (if you want a summary of some of the most powerful, look no further than Time’s). But to really begin to fathom just how often women face violence (or the threat of violence) simply for exercising their right to say no to men check out the new Tumblr, When Women Refuse. It’s a good reminder that the patients for whom we care are just a fraction of the victims of gender violence out there.